{"id":12030,"date":"2017-05-15T07:06:58","date_gmt":"2017-05-15T13:06:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/the-glen-blog.com\/?p=12030"},"modified":"2017-05-16T12:23:28","modified_gmt":"2017-05-16T18:23:28","slug":"for-the-women-in-my-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/the-glen-blog.com\/?p=12030","title":{"rendered":"FOR THE WOMEN IN MY LIFE…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Through a rapist\u2019s eyes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:<\/span><\/p>\n

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1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle<\/strong>. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.<\/p>\n

2] The second thing men look for is clothin<\/strong>g. They will look for women who\u2019s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.<\/p>\n

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard<\/strong> and can be easily overpowered.<\/p>\n

4] The number one place women are abducted from\/attacked at is grocery store parking lots<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

5] Number two is office parking lots\/garages<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

6] Number three is public restrooms<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab<\/strong> a woman and quickly move<\/strong> her to a second location where they don\u2019t have to worry about getting caught.<\/p>\n

8] If you put up any kind of a fight<\/strong> at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn\u2019t worth it because it will be time-consuming.<\/p>\n

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas or other similar objects<\/strong>that can be used from a distance, in their hands.<\/p>\n

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince<\/strong> these guys you\u2019re not worth it.<\/p>\n

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can\u2019t believe it is so cold out here, we\u2019re in for a bad winter. Now that you\u2019ve seen their faces and could identify them<\/strong> in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.<\/p>\n

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop<\/strong> or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they\u2019d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.<\/p>\n

3] If you carry pepper spray<\/strong> (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.<\/p>\n

4] If someone grabs you, you can\u2019t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them<\/strong>. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch<\/strong> the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh \u2013 HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.<\/p>\n

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin<\/strong>. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy\u2019s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you\u2019ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he\u2019s out of there.<\/p>\n

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers<\/strong> and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.<\/p>\n

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware<\/strong> of your surroundings, take someone with you<\/strong> if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don\u2019t dismiss it, go with your instincts<\/strong>. You may feel little silly at the time, but you\u2019d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.<\/p>\n

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL \u2026.<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow<\/strong> is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.<\/p>\n

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and\/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away<\/strong> from you\u2026. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and\/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet\/purse. RUN LIKE MAD<\/strong> IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!<\/p>\n

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car<\/strong>: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won\u2019t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.<\/p>\n

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON\u2019T DO THIS!<\/strong> The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.<\/p>\n

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:<\/p>\n

a. Be aware<\/strong>: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .<\/p>\n

b. If you are parked next to a big van<\/strong>, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.<\/p>\n

c. Look at the car parked on the driver\u2019s side<\/strong> of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard\/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)<\/p>\n

6. ALWAYS take the elevator<\/strong> instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).<\/p>\n

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!<\/strong> The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women<\/strong>. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked \u201cfor help\u201d into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.<\/p>\n

Please\u00a0SHARE<\/strong> this with any woman you know. It\u2019s important to be aware of this. While we all pray and hope that we never encounter such situations, we live in a world where there are crazy people.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

It\u2019s better to be safe than sorry. This could actually save lives, so please spread the word!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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